I have included ways of dealing with each type of guest at your wedding.
- THE CRUSH/EX – Your betrothed knows this girl in his office has a crush on him quite alright but he has invited her and his ex-girlfriend to your wedding. You didn’t invite these two girls but they would be attending your wedding. If there are no previous issues of distrust, you need not worry. Act like these two girls do not exist at your wedding. You have to grow up. Your groom has chosen you among all other girls. You have won the battle.
- WEIRD BEST BUDDY – You have hated his guts since your fiancĂ© introduced you to this best pal of his as an undergraduate; this guy has made it as his best man for the day. He got an invite through your husband not you. Calm down. You have to be supportive and sensible. It is not compulsory to like all your husband’s friends but you have to treat them respectfully. If the guy has an issue you consider dangerous to your husband, talk to him about it without confrontation. An example is drinking alcohol or womanising. Address the issue not the subject.
- WACKY AUNT – This aunt is simply crazy! She quarrels with every family member and can turn a peaceful gathering to a street fight. Since she is family, it’s hard, even for your parents to exclude her on the guest list. You are afraid she will pick a fight with a vendor or another guest at the wedding. She would want an extra serving of food and enough to take home. She has bombarded you with several crazy suggestions on planning a successful wedding meanwhile she has never had a successful marriage. Forget she exists at your wedding so she doesn’t spoil your mood on the day. Designate an older or respectable member of the family to keep an eye on her throughout the event.
- UNKNOWN RELATIVE – Often you hear your parents mention one or two distant relatives; you have never met them. While you were finalising the guest list, your mother says a certain Uncle Carl from nowhere has made the list. Since it’s your wedding day, you want to celebrate the day with friends and family you love who you feel relaxed being with. Enjoy your day with or without such a strange fellow. Be respectful to the relative. This may be a rare opportunity to reconnect with a sweet relative. If you are not comfortable having him or her around on the day, ignore like they do not exist.
- GREEN-EYED GIRLFRIEND – This girl is overly jealous and she ain’t hiding it. Even when she tries to hide it with a fake smile, you can see through her heart. She is not in a relationship, has suffered an abusive relationship and her love life is full of sad stories. As such, she has become a wedding hater. If you have her as a bridesmaid, you are in for big trouble except if you can cope with her. Talk to your friend that you need her to be happy for you on your big day. She needs to rejoice with the one rejoicing. Who knows, her joy can come from there.
- BOSSY BOSS – Your boss is the boss at work, no doubt about that, backing out orders at everyone. Your colleagues at work are looking forward to attending your wedding and are already talking about it; you can no longer exclude your boss. However, you are scared that Mrs Boss would take over at your wedding giving counter instructions to wedding vendors on how things are done. If your boss has an attitude you cannot tolerate at your wedding, there is a way out. Let your vendors know the point person, go-to person or who to take instructions from on the day. There would be no confusion whatsoever.
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